by Rick London c2011
I believe if someone truly had the “happiness recipe”, their financial worth would eclipse that of Bill Gates & Warren Buffet combined. They’d be so rich they could march in the 99% in torn jeans and an unshaven face in a rustic temporary cabin that he’d paid off the corrupt city administration to set up (permanently).
But of course…I digress.
I don’t have the key to happiness nor am I in the 1%. And happiness is far from a “one size fits all business”.
I have some friends who travel and no matter what else, they are happy. Some other friends are more than content to go to church on Sundays or Synagogue on Friday and share their spiritual experience with others, and they are constantly smiling. Some of my friends seem happiest when they are working and away from their families, and others feel a sigh of relief to be away from the office (or wherever and with their families). Again, this is not a one-size fits all world when it comes to figuring out what makes one happy.
And it changes, at least in my own experience. And I am fortunate to have a soul mate who seems to find happiness in many of the same things.
We are happiest when our health is good. Ok, that’s a universal. So we’ve researched and are trying everything possible to try to be as healthy as we can. We don’t smoke or drink. We commune with nature via mountain hiking or just strolling to the park and always come back with a smile (even if we headed there with a frown). Nature is a quick cure and recipe for (at least getting rid of “the grumps”). We both feel a deep spiritual connectedness in our Ouachita Mountains.
We laugh. But we don’t laugh for laughing sake. There are many “feel good psychologists and life coaches” who tell us to laugh”. I believe that is a big mistake….not to laugh laugh at inappropriate times (and things); but to recognize when something is funny to us, and let go. Again that’s not a one size fits all world. Humor is subjective. Just because someone likes one comedian, TV show, newspaper or webcomic, does not mean you will, and vice versa. The importance of knowing when/why to laugh is important because it helps us know more about ourselves and our own boundaries. And knowing and conquering the “hidden demons” in our psyche is half the battle. Good humor is one of the greatest weapons.
Having faith seems to be universal. But don’t get me wrong. I am not promoting one religion over another; or any religion. I know many atheists with plenty of faith and same with agnostics. I know many who claim to be the most religious with little or no faith. They are generally the ones who preach the most. I always want to tell them “Don’t Preach To Me, Show Me With Actions”. Words mean very little to a spiritual educated adult. We learn and “are sold” by example, not by how “religious you are”. Jerry Sandusky was very enthusiastic about his church. Most of us understand the value of words vs. the value of actions. We’re not fooled and we’re not impressed (with mere words)…which are often diametrically opposed to actions).
Another point I’m (trying) to make is we can’t find happiness by trying to absorb or copy someone else’. It truly is an “inner job”. Those looking outside oneself will most likely do so until time runs out and we don’t want that.
Trying one’s passion is of the utmost urgency. I don’t have to tell you that. No matter what you are doing and how much you are making, you have a dream that you’ve stuffed way back in the corner of your mind. I don’t mean quit your day job, but give that dream the respect it deserves. Study it on the Internet or through books. Take lessons. Do whatever you have to do to make it a part of your life. In my case, almost at midlife, I finally did that and I love the creative process so much, it truly feels like play, much more so than work, and people actually pay me to do it. It almost seems unfair, but Lee reminds me that “it makes people laugh”, so I suppose it is a service, creates jobs, etc and is somewhat important in the entire scheme of things.
In any case, it gives me much greater satisfaction than numerous jobs I’ve had that paid considerably more. And same is true with Lee and her hiking/photography/design business at Hike Our Planet. It gives her a great sense of joy which is very contagious and we feed off each other in a fun creative manner (some call it brainstorming). We call it “just plain fun”.
Finally, nobody’s perfect. My words don’t always parallel my actions, but that is my goal; and I know my moral compass is in a good enough place to where I’ll never go so off-track as to the horror show at Penn State. The name of the game, I believe, is not to be perfect (Emerson, Thoreau, Mark Twain, Picasso) and so many others have warned us many times, “Looking for perfectionism? Look somewhere else because you’ll never
find it”. It’s all about progress, and a healthy respect for others seeking progress, not perfection. And for the most part, I stay happy.
I am just a plain nutty vegan mountain man who loves my wife, hiking, the mountains and pie (if it’s vegan). I founded Londons Times Cartoons in 1997 which has been Google #1 ranked since 2005 (hey that’s 7 years now) for offbeat cartoons and funny gifts. And I like to design shoes, clothes, gifts and such in such shops as Shoes That Amuse and Wisdom Shop.